Saturday, November 21, 2015

O Dear Parent ! this not the way you define loyalty & good behaviour of your kids

O Dear Parent ! this not the way you define loyalty & good behaviour..... kindly do not expect your kids, especially grown up ones to be like your pet dog.

Only dog will always, unconditionally obey your commands of whistle, clap and feel happy when you are back to home. 
BTW I am a dog lover & they have their own place in my heart

Saturday, November 14, 2015

O Serious(ly) think(ing) man ! Why God has created women

O Serious(ly) think(ing) man ! Why God has created women... So that she can infuse alternate thoughts, vibrant colours and create happiness in your life. Think different, be stress free

Wednesday, November 11, 2015

International means inclusion and understanding/appreciating concept of negotiated boundaries

International means inclusion and understanding/appreciating concept of negotiated boundaries. It doesn't mean fork/knife/spoon, black suits......only 

Monday, November 9, 2015

True incident: Boy's indecision to marry girl, he is dating since last 8 years & his reasons/explainations?

This is true incident: I met this lady (Shweeta-name changed) 7 years ago, perfect sweet girl & perfect feminine, as God has created all women.

She was introduced to me by my best friend (Boxy-name changed)

I was in constant touch with my friend & always used to end conversation with; "I am waiting for good news, you marrying this wonderful girl"

After 8 years, he confessed, she is yet to decide, I am decisive, as to what I want.

O man ! O Boxy! you made me ponder, when you expressed;
  1. Why this girl doesn't understand me.
  2. Why can't she think the way I think. 
  3. Why can't she sometimes understand, challenges I am undergoing, I am an entrepreneur?
  4. She is least interested to make love, her desire to be intimate & make love is too weak.
After patiently listening to him, I suggested, what will happen when all people think alike, you & she think alike, she always agrees to all your wishes.

I find her to be more committed than anyone in this relation and perhaps you got to make next move, ask her father to marry this girl with you.

Women have their own way of thinking, assimilating, interpreting everything & like to discuss & evaluate all options before they take decision.

When you return home you got to only listen her beautiful voice, her words are like honey & her voice is like a cuckoo with undivided attention.
You will only listen, listen, listen.... no opinion & judgements please.

Hold her hand her like a father during day, shower affection like a mother & then think of becoming husband. Your passion & her desires will be too intense to be satisfied..... then you will experience perfect pleasure of union between man & woman

Best wishes, get married, enjoy the bliss & give me good news of new family member.


O Dear Father ! Perfect exceptional intelligent 100% always correct man! Did you plan to age gracefully;enjoy time with spouse & grand kids?

O Dear Father ! Perfect exceptional intelligent 100% always correct man! 
Did you plan to age gracefully;enjoy time with spouse & grand kids?

A) Law of nature & fact, everything which has been created & born will undergo rebirth..... the earlier you accept, the better it is for your happiness & key to longevity.

B) Your son, daughter-in-law, grand kids and of course daughter have deep desire to take your legacy ahead, to move ahead from where to left.

C) Let there be grace in including them in steering & piloting the family growth, they need unconditional love support & encouragement. 

D) Stop being a correction agent (even God doesn't do this) & think you are doing a favour by finding their mistakes, disciplining them by carrying a stick.

Happy Grace-full Aging !!

Saturday, September 19, 2015

Corporate Rules of engagement at workplace ought to take @ Gender engagement

 Corporate Rules of engagement at workplace ought to take @ Gender engagement. 
Natural way of engaging women...... rules are too masculine, sucks; cause depression in many families & ruin homes

Tuesday, September 1, 2015

FACT, Cost of doing business is less.......

True Incident: Confession of a advocate; decided to loose; save rich client's marriage rather his fees

This is true incident as shared by a advocate (my neighbor)
  • His client high net-worth industrialist's son
  • Other party, richer than his client & well established industrial/export house family's daughter represented by another lawyer
  • Agenda: divorce due to incompatibility of thoughts between husband & wife
  • After so many hearings & arguments, he decided to meet other advocate & shared the idea; although both of us will get our fees, however marriage, a sacred bond between the two will end. Let's try to stop ego play between both parties & unite newly married husband & wife.
They decide to play marriage counselor role, meet boy & girl separately/privately, rather than with their respective parent/family.
  • They counseled the rich boy as to what marriage institution means, importance of family values & quality time spend with his newly wed wife instead of expensive gifts
  • They counseled the girl & requested her to have patience. She is a lovely intelligent girl & perhaps attention seeking expectations as per her standards will be met gradually. They appreciated, she is right in her thoughts, justified in her expectations, however to be always suspicious about her husband's women colleagues, ex-girl friends and controlling nature is not the foundation on which marriage institution can be build. 
This is true story of Punjabi family, a top Ludhiana based industrialist son & Delhi based export house daughter

My thoughts (specially for Fathers, because I am also one among-st them)

  1. Do we counsel our sons & daughters before they get married
  2. As a father, we all immensely love our daughters & try best to fulfill her expectations immediately
  3. Do we prepare our daughters, importance of patience, time in maturing of a relation, fulfilling of her expectations. Instant gratification may not be instant when she gets married.
  4. Also read: I have written in earlier blog roles to be played by a married man for this wife Happy Marriage !!

Tuesday, August 25, 2015

We got to learn the difference; allowing woman to remain woman V/S treating her equally at par-with/as-same-as man

O Men! Only 2 lines: How & Why God has created women. Sabhya Samaj talk at MNC (Punjab team)

How: God has created women pure; with XX chromosome
Why: God has created women to nurture (Kudrat = Kaur, it means princess and all Sikh women add this as prefix)

Client: Leading Indian MNC, Behavioural workshop at Punjab for approximate 400 participants spread over 10 days.

My Questions to male only audience:
  1. Men have XY chromosome &  women XX, what does this mean?
  2. Why should we think & go against the will of god by not honouring the way he has created women?
  3. Is it correct to nurture thoughts of preference for male only child?
  4. How we can make our home and work-place welcoming & accommodating for women?
  5. Is single woman, walking alone down street; responsibility or opportunity?
  6. We give unlimited love and affection to our daughter, whatsoever tantrums she does, why cant we give unlimited love & affection to our spouse?
  7. Why do we forget, spouse was also daughter of someone?
  8. What 4 most important role a man has to play for spouse?


Sunday, August 23, 2015

Earlier when everything used to fail, I used to pray; O God ! give me inner strength. Now before I start doing anything, I pray; O God ! give me inner strength

Earlier when everything used to fail, I used to pray; O God ! give me inner strength. Now before I start doing anything, I pray; O God ! give me inner strength, so that I add value & help others. Thank you for everything, I am only a medium to spread your message, help people live common sense, live intelligent

Saturday, August 22, 2015

Next generation biggest challenge, (specially nuclear & ultra rich staying at metro cities). Unable to become parent & cherish the institution of marriage

Next generation biggest challenge, (specially nuclear & ultra rich staying at metro cities). Unable to become parent & cherish the institution of marriage.... Falling sperm count & disturbed biological cycle. Let's Live Natural, Live Intelligent

O Man ! does love mean; unconditional abeyance of our wish list by woman we love and & perhaps our kids..

O Man ! does love mean; unconditional abeyance of our wish list by woman we love and & perhaps our kids..

Thursday, August 20, 2015

Why we do, what we are doing ?....Let's make this planet a happier place

God has created Man and Woman differently to compliment each other. Their brain wiring, thought process, interpretation, assimilation & application of information is uniquely different. They have different happiness engagement buttons & emotional needs.

If you are in relation or business, and are able to understand & appreciate the gender-based thought process of your companion, associates, employees & prospects; you're going to be happier, more productive, Our credentials & testimonials by participants speak for themselves. Additionally, if you are in a leadership role and are able to understand gender nuances you are going to be successful as a effective leader

Would you like to live & work natural intelligent way;  be a Captivating Gender Smart Professional;
1) Sales Person
2) Retailer/Online seller

3) Manager/Team Leader/HR Professional
4) Coach

Tuesday, August 18, 2015

True incident: How I helped my best customer have marital bliss, live natural intelligent way

This is true incident, happened 18 month ago.

I never ever do this, however called by best customer, (young married professional, yet to become parent) 6 time in a span of 2 hours, I don't know what made me do this.

He expressed inability to meet at as agreed time, 6-6.30 PM @ family exigency. My response was family is priority, take care. However if you allow me to ask, you only have spouse, what happened to her.

He responded, he has to rush to a specialty hospital at Gurgaon, urgent medical test of  spouse, since she is suffering from migraine, it all started 2 month ago with little headache & back pain, now its severe & unbearable.

I don't know what made me speak this, however it was spontaneous & natural & he listened for 20 minutes, called me again, twice thereafter

My suggestion
  1. Even if you can't comprehend, do whatever your spouse asks you to do, for next 2 days with full unquestioned devotion
  2. You will gently encourage your spouse to accompany you for morning & evening walk (walk slow)
  3. Walk bare foot on grass, hug a tree as many times as you like
  4. If possible pat & feed a cow, else pat & feed dogs (any four legged creature)
  5. Keep small aquarium preferably near dining table or a t lobby
  6. Most important, learn to give message to a woman, area near her neck & ears, feet, back & then be natural, God has created two gender to have bliss, happiness, pleasure & propagate human race

He asked me reason & perhaps some scientific explanation to do this, My response was do what I have told you for two days, you will get result & ill explain you thereafter.

We met after a week & tried to explain him, Base-"Mooladhar" Chakra of women is highly sensitive & gets disturbed easily.

Nuclear family, stress to we men-women, food & artificial living is huge contributory factor to disturbed sleep which result in stress.

When woman marries a man, she usually relocates to her husband's place of stay-work. Relocation may be simple for man, however for woman it can be emotional challenge if not managed well. 

A man has to play various roles for a newly married wife;
  • Father
  • Mother
  • Girl Friend
  • & husband at the end

Fact & uncommon common sense: God has created Man and Woman differently to compliment each other

Fact & uncommon common sense
God has created Man and Woman differently to compliment each other. Their brain wiring, thought process, interpretation, assimilation & application of information is uniquely different. They have different happiness engagement buttons & emotional needs. 

Would you like to live & work natural intelligent way;  be a Captivating Gender Smart Professional;
1) Sales Person
2) Retailer
3) Online seller
4) Manager/Team Leader/HR Professional
5) Coach

Sunday, August 16, 2015

O Dear ! loving father of a daughter !!

O Dear! loving father of a daughter !! You unknowingly give her stress, when you make her compete with men in financial earnings & funny status symbols called toys. Allow her to remain feminine.

  • After my seminars, many women meet me for individual & group counseling session. 
  • They are stressed to the extreme with suicidal tendencies, their biological rhythm disturbed. They stay in nuclear family devoid of parental, community & family support .
  • Many are unable to conceive after so many (7-10 Yrs) years of marriage.
  • After listening to them patiently, they reveal disturbing, upbringing thought process by their father; to be financially independent & compete with men. Father often dominating the mother for all decision process. Can't figure out if this is good for biological role created for women.
  • Further contributing to the depression; corporate & masculine thought process at workplace, which often doesn't allow them to truly express themselves.
  • Where are we heading ? 
 P.S.  I do not charge anything for this community service & do purely with the intention to help community

My suggestions to them;
  • Go for morning spiritual session at a park or any community place, where they can unwind, laugh, talk & chirp like a free bird
  • Meet on Sunday workshop (voluntary donations)
  • Do something creative, invest time & money to nurture relations & hobby (painting, gardening, yoga, teach poor kids... preferably community activity)
  •  Learn to give holiday to electronics; mobile, tablets, TV & computer 

Tuesday, June 2, 2015

Happy, Relation focused woman; never ever count how much their men eat and how they eat

    Happy, Relation focused woman; never ever count how much their men eat and how they eat. True incident, mgr admin (lady) once commented that participants eat too much. At first I was offended that no one ever waste food, later on I felt pity that she is having turbulence in her relations... God Bless

Saturday, April 11, 2015

12 Easy Tips: MEMORABLE SELF-INTRODUCTIONS (author Renu Mattoo)

Here are a few tips to make the most effective and memorable, yet brief self-introductions: When do you need to make a self-introduction?
  1. When you meet someone or are seated next to someone and both of you are strangers to each other;
  2. When you recognise someone, or know of him, but you are a stranger to him;
  3. When you remember someone you have met briefly, or long ago, but clearly he does not remember you;
  4. When the person introducing you forgets your name!
What should be the aim of your self-introduction?
  1. To ensure attention to yourself and to your business;
  2. To be remembered when you connect at a later point.
What should you do at the moment of self-introduction?
  1. Look for the right time to introduce yourself. If you introduce yourself in a crowd, or when the listener is in a rush to move away, or when loud noises force you to shout, even the best introduction will be lost.
  2. Keep it brief. One minute or less is enough. If you continue to add information, you may dilute the value of the introduction, and weaken the impact of your first few words as you finally close weakly. Know when and how to stop to give your listener the chance to ask a question, or ask for your business card.
  3. Determine the impact you want to make. Identify what you need to highlight for which situation, objective and person. Make the introduction relevant to the interest of the audience, and to your objective.
  4. Do not oversell yourself. You will sound false, and when the truth is out, your integrity will be in doubt. Underselling is as harmful. You will sound unimpressive and not worth anyone’s time.
  5. Maintain good eye contact to show your interest in the other person. Do not, however, stare unblinkingly!
  6. Look happy and interested. Introduce yourself with a smile. Let your facial expression show your enthusiasm in the meeting, and pride in what you do. People are attracted to happy, smiling faces.
  7. Sound alert and involved. Do not sound apologetic, hesitant, or embarrassed. Do not make excuses or offer explanations for what you do not do; rather, talk with enthusiasm and pride about what you do.
  8. Use the right words: Do not say, “Myself Mr Tom”. `Myself’ is grammatically wrong; one should not give himself the honorific `Mr’, `Mrs’, `Miss’, etc.
  9. Announce your name very clearly. If a foreigner has difficulty pronouncing an Indian name such as say, `Sidhartha’ or `Jyotsna’, see if you can make it easy for him by shortening the name to `Sid’ or `Jo’.
  10. Give an interesting twist and focus to your job. Rather than announcing straight off what your occupation or job title is, tell people the benefit of what you do. Instead of `I’m a cross-cultural trainer’, consider, `I help companies understand how to do business successfully with people in different parts of the world’.
  11. Give an unusual, creative and interesting job title to your work if you are an independent, freelance professional. Instead of `I am an Ayurvaid’, introduce yourself as `I am an Alternative Traditional Healer’. It usually grabs the listener’s attention! `What does that mean?’ To add greater value to what you do, instead of `a’, use `The’. Rather than I am a Legal Tax Saver’, say, `I am The Legal Tax Saver’.
  12. Use humour in your self-introduction. Though you could prepare a humorous introduction in advance, you must sound spontaneous! If someone has just introduced himself as `I am Smith, a tax lawyer’, you can connect with that in a humorous way, `And I help add wealth to clients so that they need Mr Smith here! Good evening! My name is Aryan Marwah. I am The Wealth Manager.’ Your introduction will be remembered better that Smith’s. Successful use of humour requires observing what is happening around you, what is being discussed, and how other people are introducing themselves. And, of course, courage and self-confidence!
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While a `cold call’ is a much-used selling technique, when calling on a VIP customer, always take an appointment. The process and words:
  1. If you are able to talk directly to the person you want to meet: Greet and give your full name and the name of your company: “Good morning, Sir / Dr Dhar. My name is Raj Tikoo. I head Marketing with Corporate Arms, a Bangalore-based training firm.”
  2. Explain your purpose for calling, and the time you will need: “I am calling to seek 15 minutes from you to explain what we do and how we can contribute to the skill-growth of your company”.
  3. Add strength to your request: “In your recent interview on TV, you expressed your passion about enhancing the skills of your managers. And that is exactly what we do. So, may I request 15 minutes on any day this or next week at a mutually convenient time. Our visual presentation is barely five minutes long. I’d also like to show with you feedback from our other clients.”
  4. Thank and confirm if you get the time: “Thank you Dr Dhar. I will see you next Wednesday, at 4:30 pm. Thank you again. Good day.”
  5. If you do not get a positive response: “Though I am disappointed, I understand. May I seek an appointment a few months later. Thank you for your time now.”
  6. If you talk to a secretary: “Good morning. I need your help (this usually gets a positive response). My name is Raj Tikoo. I head Marketing with Corporate Arms. I seek 15 minutes time from Dr Dhar to explain how we can contribute (this arouses interest) to the skill-growth of his company.” Remember to thank, regardless of whether you get the appointment or not. Your courtesy will be remembered.
  7. An important tip: The less time you ask for, the sooner you will get your appointment; the more time you ask for, the later you will get your appointment.
  8. Confirm the appointment a day or some hours before the meeting.
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Kind Acknowledgement to (author Renu Mattoo)

Saturday, April 4, 2015

True Incident ! Woman-mother herself gave happiness solution to her misunderstandings with husband & prevented.... ?

This is true incident ! (name changed to protect identity)

Jaslyn, Age-37 Yr, Mother of 2 kids (2 yr daughter & 4 yr son), College lecturer, stays in own house, 4 servants, often fight with her husband & usually in complaint mode about her relations & expectations not being fulfilled.

She is not satisfied with her personal-household life, workplace, kids not loving her & her husband not being good as well, often avoiding her.

After few meetings & only listening to her woes, I asked her, whom her husband loves the most in family, quick came the reply, obviously her, because she is so caring about him.

Next question; 
  1. Whom does your husband ask for when he enters home?
  2. With whom does he spend maximum time & talks to when he enters home?
Quick came the (very loud) reply, with a happy smile; obviously our 2yr old daughter

Next question, why he does that? 

We discovered reason for this behavior; because daughter gives unconditional love, hugs, giggles, climbs on the father, kiss him & does not ask any questions & says you are best father, happy to see you back.

O Dear Lady !, can you please appreciate this & be like that to feel bliss in your life. Kids are pure & we can learn a lot from them.

Forgive me for this;
Your home is a home, it's not a college & you husband is not your student. Stop being like a teacher, who is always asking her husband, have you done this/that, specially when he enters home.

Never spoke this: I wish she wear clothes which enhance her femininity at home, walk like a nature's breeze & stop smelling like a car leather.

Women are always right, they think/care so much & are correctly justified in their concerns. 

However they usually do not realise, excessive speaking, questioning when husband returns home is like a interrogation chamber by law enforcement higher authority. It is too stress-full a situation, allow him to unwind, have patience.
Can you spot more hidden messages. misconceptions & learning?

Reply to comment by a lady,

Thanks Jane for comments, This is true incident. The lady "Jaslyn" always acknowledged, her husband is the best, he has provided all the luxuries, good house, servants, he is so caring & pays for everything; her shopping, her dress, good food....... The message can be interpreted in various ways, women are always right, rephrasing communication & timing of request will amaze everyone. I am humble ordinary human being & shared true incident.

I also understand, I am not a woman, however I have genuine interest to help others. With men, I am direct & always sensitise them, that you have to play all roles of Father, Mother, Sister, Brother, Husband to make your spouse comfortable & win her heart. 

There is something beyond; which is vibrations, intentions, law of attraction.

Everything is fine, all depends upon the final expected outcome by anyone, after all, its ones own life & own choice. Consequences/outcomes/gratifications are short term or long term accordingly.

Persistence to nurture relations at any partner's end is the key to success to have bliss.

Best wishes, Warmly

Thanks Jane, Greetings for the day, for taking time out & sharing your views.

For me, Equality, Fairness, Inclusion also involves collaboration, being mindfully aware of strengths & most important being natural, God Has created 2 gender, differently, with complimenting strengths & abilities. For me it is inclusion & leveraging gender (and differently- able) strengths. Filling numbers, no way help anyone.

During the experiential learning workshops, definitions & understanding of equality is as different as our fingerprints.

I prefer to share, real examples, what has worked for happiness. When there is genuine desire for men-women in professional/personal relations to make things work; universe conspires to ensure desired vibrations are in place to help nurture & grow.

When people take a break, to enjoy what they do naturally in our Outbound activities (femininity=nature, which is undefined by God), solutions emerge.

I would suggest, do take time out & read more on my blog to appreciate complete picture.

During activities; A useless watch is correct, twice a day, is my preferred icebreaker, whenever there is breakdown in relations/communications.

Adding on,

We go beyond; during outbound activities, employers, managers & leaders, realise; in fact it emerges naturally what they have been missing by not being gender & differently able inclusive.

We focus on meaningful engagement & how strengths can be leveraged, going beyond mere numbers, so that happiness is inclusive, perhaps UK is much ahead.

Why don't you enrich my knowledge, how HR at your country ensures this.

Let's connect on skype & build better inclusive world, where gender & differently able are valued & respected for their strengths naturally

Life is bliss
Best wishes

Friday, April 3, 2015

Strange, today I won over a point with my wife !

Strange,  today I won over a point with my wife ! that her love will cure her father's eye after surgery faster than any doctor can. Stop being like your mother for next 30 days to your father....Unconditional appreciation, acceptance, love is something I love about my daughter always

O Father ! When will you realise Job & qualifications are only to improve your daughter's life

O Father ! When will you realise Job & qualifications are only to improve your daughter's life & not to have upper hand over prospective groom. Boys want to marry a girl full of feminine traits. Who want to marry a man in feminine body

O Man ! the bond between father & daughter is UN-explainable

O Man ! the bond between father & daughter is UN-explainable; infinite, unconditional love..... When you marry a girl, you must remember, your spouse is also someone's daughter.

Thursday, April 2, 2015

O Dear Sister ! you are 38 yrs, when will you nurture & raise a family.

O Dear Sister ! you are 38 yrs, when will you nurture & raise a family. You got to learn to share, you drive your life & car with stress & excessive race, park your car in middle of driveway, walk too fast, entire washroom dedicated to you only for your use, bedroom & wardrobe has no space; your physique & walking no longer resembles a free flowing bubbling river. Don't be a corporate slave, You are not a money making machine. What will you do after 65 (retirement) without relations. 

O Father, allow her to be natural, start to find goodness in men (prospective groom)....a well wisher

Why should be define feminism?

Why should be define feminism? God has created nature-Mother Earth-Feminism undefined, without any logic & this is the reason, mystery, attraction, infinite love & affection, Stay blessed & do so for others

Wednesday, April 1, 2015

Wishing prosperity & happiness in relations, finance to all, vibrations is everything :)

Wishing prosperity & happiness in relations, finance to all, vibrations is everything :) . With best wishes & lead of someone in small town Jallandhar (India, Punjab), I am fortunate to get huge business from leading US automobile manufacturer. I would be rolling out Captivating Gender Smart Professional (Sales Person & team leader) for them till June for their new yet to be launched car..... The person who referred me, was interviewed & finalised as trainer by be 4 yrs ago (somehow my senior rejected him, I kept him in high self esteem & escorted till lift...pleasant memories)

Sunday, February 22, 2015

Yesterday, a young lady (entrepreneur, intelligent, hard working, mother, joint family) asked me. what do I do there is so much competition in designer wear for women

Yesterday, a young lady (entrepreneur, intelligent, hard working, mother, joint family) asked me. what do I do there is so much competition in designer wear for women.... I heard her for 45 minutes & said, flower doesn't ask another flower, should I bloom or not. Go ahead and bloom with full glory, Best wishes

Sunday, February 8, 2015

Ardhanarishvara: When the Ultimate Man Became Half-Woman. The biggest challenge, we got to address is caused by Men, why are we, forcing our thoughts on transforming & redefining feminism?

The biggest challenge, we got to address is caused by Men, why are we forcing our thoughts on transforming & redefining feminism, women-hood ?
God has created 2 gender differently, for a reason; to happily collaborate & co-create
  1.  What is Ardhanarishvara.
  2. Full-fledged man and woman.
  3. Purusha and Prakriti.
  4. The feminine in society .
Sadhguru: Generally Shiva is referred to as the ultimate man, he is the symbolism of ultimate masculinity, but you will see in the Ardhanarishvara form of Shiva, one half of him is a fully developed woman. Let me tell you the story of what happened. Shiva was in an ecstatic condition and because of that, Parvati was drawn to him. After Parvati did many things to woo him and sought all kinds of help, they got married. 

Once they were married, naturally, Shiva wanted to share whatever was his experience. Parvati said, “This state that you are in within yourself, I want to experience it too. What should I do? Tell me. I am willing to do any kind of austerity.” Shiva smiled and said, “There is no need for you to do any great austerity. You just come and sit on my lap.” Parvati came and with absolutely no resistance towards him, sat on his left lap. Since she was so willing, since she had placed herself totally in his hands, he just pulled her in and she became half of him.
You need to understand, if he has to accommodate her in his own body, he has to shed half of himself. So he shed half of himself and included her. This is the story of Ardhanarishvara. This is basically trying to manifest that the masculine and the feminine are equally divided within yourself. And when he included her, he became ecstatic. What is being said is that if the inner masculine and feminine meet, you are in a perpetual state of ecstasy. If you try to do it on the outside, it never lasts, and all the troubles that come with that are an ongoing drama.

Full-fledged man and woman

Essentially, it is not two people longing to meet, it is two dimensions of life longing to meet – outside as well as inside. If you achieve it inside, the outside will happen one hundred percent by choice. If you do not achieve it inside, the outside will be a terrible compulsion. This is the way of life. This is the reality which is being expressed in a beautiful dialectal form – Shiva included her as a part of himself and became half-woman, half-man.

This is a symbolism to show that if you evolve in your ultimate context, you will be half a man and half a woman – not a neuter – a full-fledged man and a full-fledged woman. That is when you are a full-blown human being. You are not skewed development, you are not just masculine or feminine, you have allowed both these things to grow. Masculine and feminine does not mean male and female. The “feminine” and “masculine” are certain qualities. Only when these two qualities happen in balance within, can a human being live a life of fulfillment.

Purusha and Prakriti

If you look at the story of Ardhanarishvara as a symbolism of creation, then these two dimensions – Shiva and Parvati or Shiva and Shakti – are known as Purusha and Prakriti. The word “Purush” is today commonly understood as “man,” but that is not what it means. Praktriti means “nature” or “creation.” Purush is that which is the source of creation. The source of creation was there, creation happened, and it fit perfectly well into the source of creation. What is referred to as the Purusha is the cause, the main induction which sets things going. When the existence was primordial, when it was not in a state of creation, what caused it to snap up and suddenly become creation is referred to as Purusha. Whether a human being is born, or an ant is born, or a cosmos is born, it is happening the same way. In terms of human understanding, it is referred to as male or masculine. 

The whole human population happened because of a single act of a man, because of copulation, isn’t it? That is not a great act. It could happen in any way. It could happen irresponsibly, negligently, forcefully, in anger, in hatred – it need not necessarily happen beautifully. Whichever way you do it, population will come. But what happened in the womb cannot happen whichever way. It has to happen in a very orderly and beautiful way, otherwise it will not work. If it goes wrong or happens violently, life will not happen. 

So when we look at this basic process that set creation going, that process is just like one act. That is known as Purusha, but what takes this on and slowly evolves into life is called Prakriti or nature. That is why nature is represented as feminine.

The feminine in society

Today, society and even women have misunderstood feminine nature as weakness. Women are trying to be like men because economics has become the main force in the world. Everything is back to the law of the jungle – survival of the fittest. Once you do that, the masculine will dominate. We have chosen the power of gross conquest over the subtleties of love, compassion and embracing life.

You will see, if you just have masculine, you will have everything but you will have nothing. Consciously nurturing and celebrating the feminine in a society is very essential. This needs to happen right from school. Children should go into music, art, philosophy, and literature as much as they go into science and technology. If this does not happen, there will be no room for the feminine in the world. If we don’t see how to make both the masculine and feminine find equal roles to play in our life structure, we will live very incomplete, lopsided lives.

Kind acknowledgement to Source: Isha Foundation: 

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What is Captivate, Captivating & Synonyms?


What is Captivate, Captivating & Synonyms?

Captivating: adjective

Capable of attracting and holding interest; charming.

"A captivating smile"

Captivate: verb

Gerund or present participle: captivating

Attract and hold the interest and attention of; charm.

"He was captivated by her beauty"

Synonyms: Enthrall charm, enchant, bewitch, fascinate, beguile, entrance, enrapture, delight, attract, allure, lure, win, ensnare, dazzle, absorb, engross, rivet, grip, hypnotize, mesmerize, spellbind, infatuate, enamour, seduce, woo, ravish

Click Here: Are you Captivating Gender Smart Professional (Retailer, Salesperson)?

Friday, February 6, 2015

Are you Captivating Gender Smart Professional (Retailer, Salesperson)?

Current sales training available in the market are too process oriented & does not take into account how men & women think differently.

Introducing: Captivating Gender Smart Professional (Retailer, Salesperson)

After successful pilot(s) (repeat orders at Automobile & luxury retailers) at leading Indian companies/ MNC, 17 years of intensive experience, study & research about gender science; as to how women-men think, interpret each other's communication, give it a meaning & take decisions; we are delighted to offer our flagship workshop to corporate & individual. 
Why this workshop?
  • Marketing department in almost all companies do immense research in all aspects of conceptualization of product/service;
  • design campaign/communication
  • pilot testing & fine tuning
  • ultimately final launch. 
  • However the desired results are sometimes not there, Why?
  • How women shop & men buy? Do we understand this?
  • Are you struggling to generate walk ins?
  • Are you concerned about low conversion rate of buyers, walk-ins, tele-queries?
  • Why sales person are not able to convince?
  • Why their is attrition in sales team, especially high performing women?
We are there to help you, in this blended learning workshop, exclusively targeted at front-line sales person, supervisor, store manager & HR professionals, participants will learn
  1. How to sell yourself, gender appealing way
  2. How to create ownership of your product & services after you have appealed them
  3. How to demonstrate & explain product/services differently to women & men, so as to get favourable response
  4. How to understand differences in behaviour, address concerns & resolve dissatisfaction, which is natural & normal
  5. How to get repeat orders by delighting dissatisfied customer
  6. How to increase refer-ability, carve a niche of yourself by building your credentials & enhancing trust factor
  7. How to be happier in your personal & professional relations by being gender smart
  8. How women & men can work together in day to day transactions, so as to co-create happiness & prosperity
  9. How at workplace women & men can appreciate each other strengths & get inspired
  10. Going beyond & enriching yourself ..................

Unique workshop content developed & delivered by me is "Captivating Gender Smart Retail Professional". This is inspired from my own work & research since 1996 in retail industry (Automobile, Telecom, IT, consumer electronics & modern retail) "Why men buy & why women shop". This directly impacts increase in conversion ratio, by engaging buyers (men-women differently) by understanding their hot buttons.
Few articles authored by me;

General Motors (Associate consultant; SLS-Strategic Learning Systems)
  1. Bronze induction (2 day) for sales consultant
  2. Silver Transformation camp (3 day) for Sr. sales consultant & team leaders
  3. New SAIL (Product) launch (1 day) for entire hierarchy of a dealer
  4. Mystery shopping/audit TATA- JLR (Jaguar Land Rover)
Shoppers Stop, Metro Cash & Carry, Decathlon (Associate Trainer with Chitkara Retail Management Academy)
  1. 20/30 days induction-Captivating Gender Smart retail professional

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