Monday, December 15, 2014

True Incident:Young Rich Angry Woman: Capturing Moments of Separation-Depression-Happiness-Remarriage


This true story has a meaningful Happy ending, kindly read complete article before forming opinion


4 Year ago, I received a distress call from Kavita, A Young Rich Angry Woman (name changed to protect identity). She is daughter of top professional; Vice President of top 3 infrastructure management company at Gurgaon, India. I have never ever seen or met this woman, only saw her photo on FB.


One fine day, I received call at 6 PM, the woman claims to know me well, the conversation started as;
  1. I don't want to live
  2. We have never met, never spoken, however can you please help me to die
  3. My life is finished, I have lost my job
  4. I have decided to divorce my husband, court will formally separate us in few months
  5. I don't know, what to do. I have lost desire to live
  6. I have lost 10 kg weight, I don't feel like meeting anyone
  7. I had a miscarriage year ago, I don't know where do I go
Now, I am in a challenging situation, what do I do, I don't know this woman, never met her. Should I refer her to psychologist or ask my wife to speak with her. I am no way qualified or trained to handle this situation. However I decided to engage her in dialogue, wise sense prevailed, I only listened;
  • I requested her to describe her family
  • All about her job, what all she does at her job
  • She was doing her best to convince & build bond with me, Although I was feeling guilty, I said you are wonderful & unique creation of God, I think perhaps we know each other
  • We used to talk on telephone every saturday for 1 Hour for few months
  • I polished her resume & help her get placed as senior trainer with start up at location near her home
  • After she stabilized over 2 years, I requested her to describe, what is that, she likes & does not like about her ex-husband.... 
  1. She liked, her husband for his caring attitude. He doesn't drink much.
  2. He does not listen to me when he comes home from office
  3. He cannot decide what to eat, his sister requests boiled food to be cooked. He is suffering from piles. His sister is always interfering & advising what to cook
  4. He is not a homosexual or in bad habits, he doesn't have any girl friends
  5. I do not suspect, he having another affair
  6. He cannot satisfy me, I am  a young woman & have basic desire
  7. I wear most expensive red & colorful lingerie & nothing happens to him, he doesn't get excited, I have natural desire as that of a woman
  8. I have complained about this to his mother, he is not a man, I call him a "Chakka", slang/abusive word for man not able to satisfy a woman
  9. I have tried to sort out this & suggested, we can also adopt a child.
Now, I decided to gently scold her, how can you behave like this, your husband is yours & you need to take ownership for better relations with him.
  • Do you know root cause of piles is stress & spicy (red chilly) food.
  • Have you tried to talk to your husband as a friend
She again started to cry & apologized for not having treated her ex-husband properly.

Now after 4 yrs hence, she is down to earth, ego is gone, she got re-married 8 month ago & happy with her new life & moving to US. Our blessings for happy marital life & safe motherhood. She has send me her Happy photos, enjoying with her husband & family friends

God Bless her with all the happiness & safe motherhood

Lessons (from man's view point)
  • Why can't women appreciate & understand, their natural behavior unknowingly increase stress in men? They are trying to help, however the result is contrary.
  • Why can't they let their man be in his cave, when he is too tired?
  • Why they want their man to become & act like a woman?
  • Why don't they understand, they will also become mother-in-law one day?
  • Why can't they read books & encourage their husband to read books by Dr. John Gray, 1) Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. 2)  Mars & Venus in bedroom. 3) Why Mars & Venus Collide?
I am not trying to say only woman got to change, it is responsibility, equally of men as well to keep the relationship flying high, understand feminism. Why woman act that way.What they want in relations. Love making is an art, slowly & slowly rekindle the passion in your life.