Friday, October 31, 2014

Personal secret (first fight with her husband & Her Mother's attitude) shared by a Happily married woman

Ankita (name changed); Dady's darling little girl is growing up fast,  a highly successful career woman, Sr manager with leading logistics MNC at Gurgaon was doing exceedingly well in comparison to her peer in corporate world. Father retired as middle level executive. Mother usually a submissive house wife

A) She was married against her wish to get into wedlock, marriage imposed & forced by her mother. Her father also agreed with her sweet daughter's decision to delay the marriage. Ankita's husband is a Personal Assistant to top bureaucrat (Government job).

B) There were frequent complaints by Ankita to her father & family about her husband's all the bad habits of; dressing up sense, hygiene/cleanliness, way of eating & blah blah blah............. Seems like her husband is dirtiest, filthy, ill mannered person on the earth.

C) Incident: One year after her marriage, on cold winter night, she had a massive argument with her husband, she warned him to change (or else......) & decided to punish him, by staying away from him, she called up her father, drove 40 KM on winter night, of not so friendly Gurgaon-Delhi roads & reached parent's home at 9.30 PM

D) Her mother usually a submissive woman, assertively told Ankita's father to stay inside the house & not to come out to greet lil darling daughter. 

E) Mother greets her at main gate, gives Ankita a hug, offers a glass of water, kisses her & tells her to come to parental house with her husband only,*now she should go back to her home & get lost !!* . She was forceful and meant what she said. Ankita had never seen her mother so angry in her lifetime.

F) 12 years hence, Now Ankita loves her husband madly, he is the finest & best person, they have 2 beautiful kids.

My Comments & Learning:
A) I am also father to a wonder daughter, she is my strength & loves me unconditionally, I enjoy telling her bedtime stories, hug & play with her. I truly love her, care for her life long happiness & I am mentally prepared to let some other man shower her with love & affection, when she gets married to a man in her life............... adjust to life's reality.

B) Often parents do the mistake of unintentionally interfering in their daughter's marital life by being over protective. 

Friday, October 17, 2014

Humor: Men teasing woman & how she responded in Gender Smart, top US eCommerce Marketplace co.

Background: Strategy discussions (review & implementation plan), how to plan for Festive celebration for Deepawali, Christmas & New Year at  top US eCommerce Marketplace co. somewhere in Mumbai.

Time: 1830 Hrs, Men talking to other men during tea break, "she is an early bird". (referring to a woman, who packs her bag & leaves abruptly early during break, in midst of intense discussions)

Next day: The same woman; again, leaves early & cheerfully says to all, "I am an early bird, I wake up early, reach office early & I have finished my work, early on time"..... the meeting erupts in laughter & men realise something....now they are wearing thinking hats.

My comments: 
  1. Your team members need you, your expertise, guidance, experience to take best inclusive decision.
  2. The meeting schedule was decided after your consent, you had agreed to be part of meeting because you gave encouraged; strategy meeting time should be during relaxed hours with minimal interruptions.
  3. Men are sensitive & perhaps few were confused, about someone breaking the unwritten corporate meeting code. All members usually take evening snacks together.
  4. Kindly appreciate, you got to gracefully announce you are on the family way & have appointment with gynecologist, so leaving early. Best wishes, wish you safe & happy motherhood !! God has given power of creating Human beings only to you !!
Kindly forgive, If I have been too direct.