Wednesday, October 16, 2013

101 ways to score points with a woman:: Scoring Points With the Opposite Sex

9. Scoring Points With the Opposite Sex

When a woman keeps score, no matter how big or small a gift of love is, it scores one point; each gift has equal value. Little things make a big difference.

101 ways to score points with a woman:

1. Upon returning home find her first before doing anything else and give her a hug.
2. Ask her specific questions about her day that indicate an awareness of what she was planning to do
3. Practice listening and asking questions
4. Resist the temptation to solve her problems- empathize instead
5. Give her twenty minutes of unsolicited, quality attention.
6. Bring her cut flowers as a surprise as well as on special occasions
7. Plan a date several days in advance, rather than waiting for Friday night and asking her what she wants to do.
8. If she generally makes dinner or if it is her turn and she seems tired or really busy, offer to make dinner.
9. Compliment her on how she looks
10. Validate her feelings when she is upset
11. Offer to help her when she’s tired
12. Schedule extra time when traveling so that she doesn’t have to rush
13. When you are going to be late, call her and let her know
14. When she asks for support, say yes or no without making her wrong for asking
15. Whenever her feelings have been hurt, give her some empathy and tell her, “I’m sorry you feel hurt.” Then be silent; let her feel your understanding of her hurt. Don’t offer solutions or explanations why her hurt is not your fault.
16. Whenever you need to pull away, let her know you will be back or that you need sometime to think about things
17. When you’ve cooled off and you come back, talk about what was bothering you in a respectful, non blaming way, so she doesn’t imagine the worst
18. Offer to build a fire in wintertime
19. When she talks to you, put down the magazine or turn off the TV and give her your full attention
20. If she usually washes the dishes, occasionally offer to wash the dishes, especially if she is tired that day
21. Notice when she is upset or tired and ask what she has to do. Then offer to help by doing a few of her “to do” items.
22. When going out, ask if there is anything she wants you to pick up at the store, and remember to pick it up
23. Let her know when you are planning to take a nap or leave
24. Give her four hugs a day
25. Call her from work to ask how she is or to share something exciting or to tell her “I love you”.
26. Tell her “I love your” at least a couple of times a day
27. Make the bed and clean up the bedroom
28. If she washes your socks, turn your socks
29. Notice when the trash is full and offer to empty it
30. when you are out of town, call to leave a telephone number where you can be reached and to let her know you arrived safely
31. Wash her car
32. Wash your car and clean up the interior before a date with her
33. Wash before having sex or put on a cologne if she likes that
34. Take her side when she is upset with someone
35. Offer to give her a back or neck or foot massage
36. Make a point of cuddling or being affectionate sometimes without being sexual
37. Be patient when she is sharing. Don’t look at your watch
38. Don’t flick the remote control to different channels when she’s watching TV with you
39. Display affection is public
40. When holding hands don’t let your hand go limp
41. Learn her favorite drinks so you can offer her a choice of the ones that you know she really likes
42. Suggest different restaurants for going out; don’t put the burden of figuring out where to go on her
43. Get season tickets for the theater, cinema, symphony, opera, ballet, or some other type of performance
44. Create occasions when you both can dress up
45. Be understanding when she is late or decides to change her outfit
46. Pay more attention to her than to others in public
47. Make her more important than the children. Let the children see her getting your attention first and foremost
48. Buy her little presents – like a small box of chocolates or perfume
49. Buy her an outfit or a dress
50. Take pictures of her on special occasions
51. take short romantic getaways
52. Let her see that you carry a picture of her in your wallet and update it from time to time
53. When staying in a hotel, have them prepare the room with something special, like a bottle of champagne or flowers
54. Write a note or make a sign on special occasions such as anniversaries and birthdays
55. offer to drive the car on long trips
56. Drive slowly and safely, respecting her preferences. After all she is sitting powerless in the front seat
57. Notice how she is feeling and comment on it (“you look happy today” or “you look tired”) and then ask a question like “How was your day?”
58. When taking her out, study in advance the directions so that she does not have to feel responsible to navigate
59. Take her dancing or take dancing lessons together
60. Surprise her with a love note or poem
61. Treat her in ways you did at the beginning of the relationship
62. offer to fix something around the house
63. offer to sharpen her knives in the kitchen
64. Buy some good super glue to fix things that are broken
65. offer to change light bulbs as soon as they go out
66. Help with recycling the trash
67. Read out loud or cut out sections of the newspaper that would interest her
68. Write out neatly any phone messages you may take for her
69. Keep the bathroom floor clean and dry after taking a shower
70. open the door for her
71. offer to carry the groceries
72. Offer to carry heavy boxes for her
73. On trips, handle the luggage and be responsible for packing it near the car
74. If she washes the dishes offer to help scrub pots or other tasks
75. Make a “to fix” list and leave it in the kitchen
76. When she prepares a small meal, compliment her cooking
77. When listening to her talk, use eye contact
78. Touch her with your hand sometimes when you talk to her
79. Show interest in what she does during the day, in the books she reads and people she relates to
80. When listening to her, reassure her that you’re interested by making little noises like aha, oh, mmmm,…
81. Ask her how she is feeling
82. If she has been sick in some way, ask for an update and ask how she is doing or feeling
83. If she is tired, offer to make her some tea
84. Get ready to go to sleep together and get in bed at the same time
85. Give her a kiss and say Good bye when you leave
86. Laugh at her jokes and humor
87. Verbally say thank you when she does things for you
88. Notice when she gets her hair done and give a reassuring compliment
89. Create special time to be a lone together
90. Don’t answer the phone at intimate moments or if she’s sharing vulnerable feelings
91. Go bicycling together, even if it’s just a short ride
92. Organize and prepare a picnic
93. If she handle s the laundry, bring the clothes to the cleaners or offer to do the wash
94. Take her for a walk without the children
95. Negotiate in a manner that sows her that you want her to get what she wants and you also want what you want. Be caring, but don’t be a martyr
96. Let her know that you missed her when you went away
97. Bring home her favorite pie or dessert
98. If she normally shops for the food, offer to go with her or do the food shopping
99. Eat lightly on romantic occasions so that you don’t become stuffed and tired later
100. Ask her to add her thoughts to this list
101. Leave the toilet seat down

Most men strive for greater and greater success because they believe it will make them worthy of love